From a harmonica to a “hmm” — a reminder of what truly matters

Today was one of those unexpectedly delightful days. We had our Arts Club inauguration, and the chief guest was none other than Dr. V. P. Gangadharan — yes, the Dr. Gangadharan, the veteran oncologist who has saved countless lives from the clutches of cancer. In Kerala, his name itself brings comfort. People say if you are treated by him, you are already half cured, no matter how serious your condition is.

I have attended his talks on cancer before — twice, actually. But today, I met a different Dr. Gangadharan. Not the white-coat intellectual, not the busy doctor surrounded by medical jargon, but a man so simple, so grounded, that you would forget he is one of the most respected oncologists in the country.

When requested, He walked onto the stage, smiled warmly at the students, and then — to everyone’s surprise — took out a harmonica. Before we even processed what was happening, he started playing an old Hindi melody, perfectly in tune, like a professional musician. Imagine a renowned oncologist, known for his brilliance and discipline, standing on a college stage playing his favourite tune! He told us that the harmonica was his stress-buster. When stuck in traffic, instead of getting angry, he plays it right there in the car. He even laughed and said, “My driver is my biggest critic. He will say, ‘Sir, the note wasn’t right today!’”

The entire hall was smiling. There was something so genuine about him — a kind of humility that filled the room. His speech was equally wonderful — clear, powerful, and deeply human. It reminded me that true greatness does not need to announce itself; it shines quietly.

And that reminded me of another celebrity encounter. Ah, this one is not so heartwarming.

I once met a very famous singer — no names, please (my trauma does not need a name tag). I was with my daughter at a restaurant in Kochi. We chose the outdoor seating, wearing our usual “home-mode” clothes. My daughter still had traces of her annual day makeup on — you know, the glitter that refuses to leave no matter how hard you scrub.

And then, I spotted him. A legend! Every Malayali millennial has at least hummed his songs once in life. I got all excited. My daughter, wise beyond her years, whispered, “Mamma, please don’t.” But of course, mothers rarely listen to their kids’ warnings, right?

So, I walked up to him. He was having a dosa, his wife eating inside the car, and another man chatting with him. I smiled and said “Hello Sir”. He looked up and said — “Hmm?”

Now, Malayalis will understand. That “hmm” can mean a hundred things — What? Who are you? Why are you here? — all packed into one syllable. My brain froze. My daughter looked horrified. I quickly blurted out, “I’m so-and-so, an assistant professor in so-and-so college, teaching media.” Immediately, his tone changed. He smiled, became suddenly “nice.” And I thought — So, now I qualify for kindness?

That moment, I remembered something my friend Sruthy mol had once said when a celebrity visited our college. She was a big fan of his but chose not to talk to him. I had teased her then — “Why didn’t you go say hi?” She laughed and said,

“Every time I talk to my screen favourites, I end up hating them. It is better not to talk — they are perfect only on screen. Let them stay there.”

Her words came true for me as well. It is strange how a single rude encounter can erase years of admiration.

That’s why today felt so refreshing. Watching Dr. Gangadharan — a man of such stature — play the harmonica for students, joke about his driver’s feedback, and speak with such grace reminded me that real heroes do not wear masks. They do not need to.

So, here is the takeaway — or as my daughter Panchu would call it, the moral of the story:
Be a proud Malayali, be your own superhero. Let the screen idols stay where they belong — on screen. In real life, find your inspiration among those who are humble, kind, and real.

If a man as great as Dr. Gangadharan can stay grounded — and even play the harmonica at a college event — the rest of us can at least manage a smile and a “hello.”

And yes, I know — my blogs are starting to sound like my lectures. I start with one story and end up somewhere completely different. Occupational hazard, I suppose.